The last time I took a pregnancy test, my partner sat next to me on the edge of the tub and we held our collective breath waiting for that blue line to give ...

"If equal affection cannot be, let the more loving one be me." W.H. Auden Last year I made a simple, low risk New Year’s resolution: I would ask for what I w...

We humans have always licked each other's genitals. It's our attitude about oral sex which has changed over the centuries. The first time I saw an illustrati...

Does being polyamorous require a particular personality? The first time a man I was dating confirmed he’d slept with another woman, a sucking sob flew out of...

The Special Sauce of love may simply be staying fascinated with your partner I used to have a few rules about the men I ‘liked’ on dating sites: no sunglasse...

I waffle between a sense of admiration for a person who has discovered a kink that brings them joy, yet wonder what horrible event in early

My love influencers are coming from unlikely places Awhile back I took a stab at assessing the health of one’s relationship based on whether it most closely ...

Too often when love ends, the people who adore us will insist we’re still wonderful and the person who left us the idiot. Think again.

I decided early on that God was not so perverted to bless us with orgasms then expect us not to have them.

High on love or felled by loss? It's simply temporary insanity I once developed a crush on a married man so consuming I could barely function. He sold Europe...

Not every marriage is worth saving. But no marriage deserves to be abandoned during the most stressful point in its lifetime. I recently became enthralled wi...

"No woman gets an orgasm by shining the kitchen floor." Betty Friedan I had my first orgasm, age 14, staring up at the sky outside my bedroom window after ru...

It doesn't get any better than dating at midlife. Trust me If I were a drinking buddy of ‘Stella Gray’, The Guardian newspaper’s 50 year-old ‘Midlife Ex-Wife...

Is the one who strays the only cheat? 2018 was my year of dubious honor. The New York Times publish my essay, ‘What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About...

Is your relationship stable? Consider its chemistry.

Sex takes time to learn under the best of circumstances. These are not the best of circumstances.

(This essay first appeared in Modern Love for the New York Times) I’m not sure it’s possible to justify my liaisons with married men, but what I learned from...

Conflict, not compatibility, will tell you what you really need to understand about your partner I’ve done most of my internet dating using the site OKCupid....

I once arrived late to a school bake sale with my son who, when he discovered everything with chocolate had already been purchased, burst out in a wail so pi...

Pick (up) on someone your own age I know a talented, vivacious, woman living in Greenwich Village, who creates fixed and ephemeral art installations in New Y...