Anal play can be a leveler between the sexes, a space where we shed our armor, reverse power dynamics, and explore our capabilities as...

Could taking a close look at our old wounds with a partner be the best way to learn how to love each other? The single most disgraceful...

Listen. Are you breathing just a little and calling it a life? - Mary Oliver A few years ago I was so moved by the biopic “Marianne &...

Giving good head should not be about payback or getting the garage cleaned. At the tender age of eleven, having never been kissed by a...

If bad sex is a political issue we must be willing to look at the grey areas. In a recent fit of anxiety over whether I was doing enough...

Sex dolls are part of the wonderous world of perversion. And likely less harmful than you think. Not long ago I received an email from a...

I lived with my former husband for six years before we married. At the four year point I suggested I liked the idea of getting married....

A few years back, curled up in the window seat of a rustic island cabin, I got a Facebook message from a woman I didn’t know. She was...

Understanding The Love Languages as a tool for becoming a better lover (and citizen). I once dated a man as generous with his compliments...

Years ago I was, like many of us now during CoronaVirus isolation, getting to know a man I’d met online through text and phone...

Has social isolation made you reconsider your loving priorities? Just as CoronaVirus was overwhelming the world, I burst into tears while...

The last time I took a pregnancy test, my partner sat next to me on the edge of the tub and we held our collective breath waiting for...

"If equal affection cannot be, let the more loving one be me." W.H. Auden Last year I made a simple, low risk New Year’s resolution: I...

We humans have always licked each other's genitals. It's our attitude about oral sex which has changed over the centuries. The first time...

Does being polyamorous require a particular personality? The first time a man I was dating confirmed he’d slept with another woman, a...

The Special Sauce of love may simply be staying fascinated with your partner I used to have a few rules about the men I ‘liked’ on dating...

I waffle between a sense of admiration for a person who has discovered a kink that brings them joy, yet wonder what horrible event in early

My love influencers are coming from unlikely places Awhile back I took a stab at assessing the health of one’s relationship based on...

Too often when love ends, the people who adore us will insist we’re still wonderful and the person who left us the idiot. Think again.

I decided early on that God was not so perverted to bless us with orgasms then expect us not to have them.